Our Adoption Story

Holding Cam for first time

Holding my son and becoming a mommy for the first time.

My husband and I are very, very lucky.  We got to experience a beautiful adoption with our 1st son, and a beautiful pregnancy with our 2nd.  I did not think I would ever experience child birth, and for a long time I did not think I would be able to experience motherhood.  I could go on and on about how painful labor is, but there is enough information on the internet about that.  This is the story about how sweet Cameron came into our lives.

I suffered for a couple of years with infertilty.  I could get pregnant, but I couldn’t sustain the pregnancy.  It was awful.  It was sad.  I felt like a failure.  I think what was most maddening was that my doctors could not tell me why this was happening.  After the 8th miscarriage we decided to adopt.  We went with the agency American Adoptions.  Adoption agencies can be pricey,  but they offered the help we were seeking.  The amount of paperwork to be done, while putting together a profile of our lives is quite daunting, so we desperately needed guidance and American Adoptions was able to give just that.  We officially started the paperwork in October 2009 and by January 6th 2010 our profile was being submitted to potential birth moms across the country.  We were “paper pregnant”!  We didn’t know when and we didn’t know how, but we knew that there would be a baby at the end of this journey. I felt like I could finally breathe.

Now, what happened next is quite unusual. Our profile was being viewed starting on January 6th and on January 13th we got a call from the agency that a birth mom had chosen us. She was having a boy and she was due in 2 months.  Best. Day. Ever.

The next 2 months was quite a roller coaster.  We flew down to Texas to meet our “potential” birth mom.    I remember seeing her walk into our hotel lobby before she saw us.  She had a reserved look on her face, almost like she didn’t want to be there.  I found out later that she was just as nervous to meet us as we were to meet her.  We went out to dinner and asked each other questions.  By the end of the night I was pleased at how our first meeting went, but I wasn’t confident.  The next day she took us to her check up so as to hear the baby’s heartbeat.  It was there that she invited us  to be in the room with her when she gave birth.

An induction date had been set for Tuesday, March 2, 2010.  Since a giant snowstorm was to hit our area the Wednesday prior we decided last minute to fly to Texas, so as not to miss the birth.  We arrived in Dallas on February 24th and the following night we got the call that she was in labor.  Labor is no joke – that’s what I learned while watching this beautiful, generous person writhe in pain.  We tried to comfort her as best we could, but it didn’t help.  Finally, it was time to push.  We all surrounded her bed and cheered her on as she worked tirelessly during this final stage.  Suddenly Cameron was there in the doctor’s hands.  He was screaming and perfect.  I could tell the nurses didn’t quite know who to hand the baby to as I don’t think they had dealt with potential adoptive parents in the labor room before.  It was our birth mom who said in a quiet, but loving voice, “I want Liz to hold him first.”

It has been a little seven years since Cam’s birth.  He is so “us” that now I can’t believe I didn’t give birth to him.  I call him my hero baby, because he saved me when I was at a very sad point in my life. Cam’s birth mom is also my hero.  Our relationship has gotten even stronger.  We keep in touch through texts and phone calls.  We send each other gifts and photos.  We love her.  She is our angel.  I have noticed that a lot of people don’t understand this part of adoption- the openness.  All I can say is this, we  are a different kind of family, but we are still a family and she will forever be a part of it.

Drop me a line if you have any questions on adoption.  I would also love to hear your story, adoption or not, on how you came to meet your baby.  

Here is a video of when we announced to our family that we were chosen by a birth mom, and when Cam was born.  

  • Steve Brown

    Good lord, that’s a beautiful story. Congratulations!

    Wait, unless you don’t like him anymore. Then BOOO! But no, looks like love. I can totally tell. So YAY!!!

    • Liz

      Steve, you still make me laugh even after all these years. Thanks for visiting my site. : )

  • Abby

    I just love this story so much!!

    • Liz

      Thanks Abby! : )

  • Liz,

    Your site is amazing. Very well written and beautiful photos! I love your adoption story. Your ongoing communication with the birth mom is so admirable. I can only imagine how grateful you must be for her, and she for you. So beautiful. Keep following your passion for baking – I’m so happy for you and your family.

    Love,
    Gabby

    • Liz

      Thank you Gabby! I hope you and your family are well. I hear that you are quite the photographer… I may need some tips 😉 xxoo

  • jane

    Lizzie . . Even though I’ve been here .. by your side . . watching you and Aron become wonderful parents to Cameron and Wessie . . just reading this reminds me how emotional this trip has been. But in the end, it has been absolutely beautiful . . our family is so blessed.

  • Dorothy Ellinghaus

    What a beautiful story. It brought tears to my eyes.

  • I stopped by to see who is the person who left such an honest and beautiful comment on my blog. I know now. First you gave me a smile, then your brought tears to my eyes. Wish you all a lifetime of happiness together!

    • Liz

      That is so sweet… thank you Jelena!

  • Allison Hill

    This was beautiful to read!

    • Liz

      Thanks Allison!

  • Lizzzard! What a great story. Thanks for sharing. Hugs and axo love.

    • Liz

      Thanks Kyla!!! xoxo

  • Mandy Warton

    I just read this & learned your story – I didn’t know – I cried! Beautiful. Like you. xo

    • Liz

      That means a lot to me, Mandy! Thank you so much! xoxo

  • Thank you for sharing your adoption story with us, Liz! I am in tears! “I want Liz to hold him first.” That’s the sweet line that grabbed me most. What a beautiful story…that continues to this very day with your relationship with the birth mom. You are amazing! xo

    • Liz

      Stacy, that means so much. Thank you!

  • Danielle

    …and I just became very teary eyed at my desk. You are an incredible person and I am so happy for you and the little ones who have been brought into your life!

    • Liz

      Thank you… you are so sweet Danielle.:)

  • Thank you for sharing such a beautiful story. Infertility and miscarriages are near and dear to both mine and Angela’s heart. It’s amazing how strong you and your husband are to have weathered that awful storm. Infertility and baby loss is something I would never wish upon my worst enemy. And only those who have suffered it can truly understand how a grieving mother feels. I send you all the love and happiness in the world.

    • Liz

      Thank you, Meghan. That means a lot to me. Yes, it is truly heartbreaking to go through infertility. I can tell that you must have your own story. I’m sending love and happiness right back to you!

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